How To Deal With Bullies/Haters

We all get it. No matter who we are, how nice we are, or what we do. There will always be someone trying to get us down with horrid words or actions, it could be whispers behind your back, upfront insults or anonymous hate on social media, they are all horrible to receive and can make you feel very uncomfortable in yourself and could cause you to lose your self confidence.
The first thing I wanted to tackle is the question; Why do people hate? and I believe it is because of one or more of these reasons

1. Jealousy

They simply want what you have and because they cant get it they act out against you.

    2. Lack of Knowledge or Understanding
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Humans are naturally scared of what they don't know, if you don't fit into what a person calls normal they may mock you and make you feel that its not ok to be yourself but always remember to stay true to you and don't feel the need to follow the crowd.

    3.Gang Mentality

Have you ever noticed how people can be so nice when there by themselves but once their friends show up they turn into completely different people? In a large group people act differently because of peer pressure or  simply because they think they can get away with it as there is more than just one doing it, the same goes for social media and cyber bullies, they think cause they no one can see them that its ok but its never ok.

  4. To Make Themselves Feel Better

I think this is one of the main reasons why people hate on others, we all go through bad times some more than others and when were not feeling good about ourselves we strike out at others even though its not their fault.

For me personally there are four ways to prevent/deal with hate
1.Avoid-I know there is no way you can avoid hate/bullies completely however you can minimize the chance by avoiding sites where people can comment anonymously such as askfm etc..
2.Ignore-For some this is easy, some people have a naturally think skin but others like myself will find this difficult but to be honest you should ignore it they mean nothing and the hate means nothing.
3.Talk about it-Don't go through it by yourself talk to people you trust such as a close friend or relative don't let it all build up inside or it will end badly.
4.Report it- if it gets bad and lets say your still in school and have to deal with it everyday don't let them get away with it.
5.Stand up for yourself-sometimes this is all it takes for it to stop and im not saying you should sink to their level but know that sometimes telling them to f*** off is all it takes

We should all remember that we can all hate sometimes so before you say something think
is it nice?
is it constructive?
would you like it said to you?
why am I saying it?

How do you guys deal with it?
Lots of love Geraldine